Do you ever have those days (weeks) where you look back at something you said or did and think, "Who am I? Did I really just say that?" I feel like I've been thinking that a lot lately. Somewhere along the way, I have turned into this grumpy, quick tempered, impatient person (ok...maybe I've always been impatient). I am constantly annoyed by other people, whether driving or in line at the store. I'm grumpy with the kids and other family members. I don't know why I am so cranky, but I am trying so hard to overcome it.
It is like the stress of life has flipped a switch in me. I am trying to turn it back off or re-wire it, but the wires are all jumbled. Do I cut the red or the blue?
I don't want my kids to think of me as "mean old Mom." I want them to think of me as kind, patient, and quick to show love and affection. I think what I need to do is simplify things a little bit. Maybe then, the rest of life's occurrences won't be so stressful. I need to focus on just the things that will benefit me and my family. I was reminded recently at a church meeting how simple it really is to stay strong and work through adversities. It just takes a little faith, and some daily focus on Christ, but as usual, simple doesn't always mean easy. Am I right? I realize that things are only going to get tougher and more stressful as our family grows and kids get older, so I definitely need to start making changes now!
So far, things seem to be going pretty well. I've kept my "Mommy tantrums" at bay. But, I'm curious. What do you do to step back and stay happy in this fast-paced, stressful world? What keeps you sane? What keeps you focused on the important things?
I can't even believe that you would be cranky, impatient or ever annoyed by your children! :)
ReplyDeleteFirst, I'd give yourself a break. You're pregnant. It's hard to control the cranky when your pregnancy hormones seem to own you, and the fact that you're aware and trying to not be cranky says to me you'll never be "mean old mom."
ReplyDeleteBut just a few things that help me... reading conference talks (they're a little quicker and the message stays in my mind a little easier than the scriptures sometimes), long walks, and a nap, or mom time out. Oh and a clean house always helps to diffuse my crankiness. It automatically makes my life seem more peaceful and less stressed. Of course when I can't have a clean house, it helps me to at least have one space clean to sit and regroup in.
Here, here, Carla!
ReplyDeleteAnd I seriously think that exercising can really help with the crankiness. Maybe some prenatal yoga or a brisk walk around the neighborhood. Just don't over do it! :)
Thanks for your comments and advice! I really appreciate it! I always keep the blinds closed during the hot summer, but thought I'd try opening them today and let in some natural light. That definitely helps everybody act more cheery as well!
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